Nathan is Hebrew and means "gift from God" - we couldn't have been more blessed than to have been chosen as his parents!

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Saturday, July 4, 2009

Nathan's Half Birthday ~ Redneck Style!!!

The Terry Family is enjoying a nice long weekend camping at Alpine Lake for the 4th of July and we had the best time celebrating Nathan's half-birthday! Our celebration wouldn't be complete without a cake from Coccodotts (our favorite cake store located on Central Ave in Albany)! Every cake from Nathan's baby shower until now has been from this cake shop ~ the owner Rachael is a sweet heart and also donates the cake for our Buddy Walk. If you've never been there ~ you should!
We will always celebrate Nathan's half-birthday because having a birthday in the dead of winter isn't as much fun! Trust me I know. Plus it's a great way to begin teaching them math.

Nathan had such a good time ~ seriously, we don't think he has ever laughed that much for that long! We really had a celebration in our camper by the lake!

Monday, June 29, 2009

Are "We More Alike Than We Are Different?"

This is the p.r. campaign of the National Down Syndrome Congress ~ We're More Alike Than We Are Different. The theory is that persons affected by Down syndrome are more like "typical" people than they are different and I AGREE. However, I've been struggling with what that means lately. If Nathan is more like other kids than should he be treated the same? Should I encourage him (make him) to do things as if he didn't have Down syndrome? This may really be more about parenting than Down syndrome but because Nathan is affected by Ds I can't help but to think about how it factors into my parenting style. Let me give you an example. On Friday, Nathan and I attended a play group with other children that also have Ds and Nathan was really resisting standing and a mother said to me that her daughter didn't like to walk or stand in an unfamiliar environment either and without thinking I responded "well, he'll have to get over it." Nathan is also developing some behaviors that his dad and I are not thrilled with and we're working hard to correct them. Behaviors that if we allow them to continue may attract unwanted attention when he gets older.

My self reflection is, without a shadow of a doubt, a byproduct of listening and watching other parents ~ parents of children with and without Ds. Parents who allow their children to chart the course of their existence. Sometimes I'm left wondering if making Nathan do things that he "doesn't want to do" is appropriate? However, on the other hand, I feel that if I don't insist that Nathan do certain things like drink out of a straw, hold his own cup and use his own spoon (small examples of deeper issues) or correct him when he hits I'm giving up on him. Simply accepting the fact that he has Down syndrome and using it as an excuse for my inaction or his. If Nathan didn't have Ds this wouldn't even be an issue~ I would be confident in my decisions/actions. So, is he more alike other kids than he is different? I want him to be. This is a delicate balancing act that teeters on respect. Respect for Nathan as his own little person and for his varying abilities that will develop on his own timeline.